Again. You fell for someone who can't fully commit. Someone who keeps you at arm's length. Someone who gives just enough hope to keep you hooked. This isn't coincidence—it's pattern.
Why Each Type Attracts Unavailable Partners:
INFJ: You see their potential, not their reality. You think your love can heal them. INFP: You romanticize the mystery. Unavailability feels like depth. ENFJ: You're drawn to "projects." Someone who needs saving is someone who needs you. ENFP: The chase is more exciting than the catch. Availability feels boring.
INTJ: You mistake distance for depth. Emotional walls seem sophisticated. INTP: You're comfortable with distance. Too-available feels overwhelming. ENTJ: You're attracted to challenge. Easy feels weak. ENTP: You like the puzzle. Solved puzzles bore you.
ISFJ/ESFJ: You keep giving hoping they'll give back. Surely enough love will work? ISTJ/ESTJ: You chose based on logic, ignored the emotional red flags. ISFP/ESFP: You followed the feeling, ignored the pattern. ISTP/ESTP: You wanted excitement. Stability seemed dull.
Breaking the Pattern:
1. Recognize your type's vulnerability. Know your blind spot. 2. Consistency is sexy. Reframe availability as strength, not weakness. 3. Early exits. Leave at the first red flag, not the 47th. 4. Your love doesn't fix them. It never did.
Your Affirmation: "I deserve someone who chooses me consistently. Crumbs are not a meal."